Meaningful Chat

My mother has mild memory loss which made it necessary for her to move in with us.  My adult children are resistant to spending time with her because they don’t know what to talk about.  Do you have any suggestions? 

Shirley, Paradise

Dear Shirley,

Your mother, like the majority of us, probably likes to feel useful and likes to reminisce about “the good old days”.  Your children could ask her about her childhood and even about what you were like as a child.  They need to use open ended sentences like, “tell us how you met Grandpa” or” what did Mom like to do as a child?”  Avoid statements like, “don’t you remember when we…..”.  She may also enjoy going to their home and helping with simple tasks that she can still do like folding laundry, gardening, housekeeping, or helping to prepare a meal.  This would be an enjoyable time for her and them and be helpful to them at the same time. 

Sincerely,  Lyn